Last week Sparkling Eyes lost her mum, she was 84 years old and there was nothing doctors could do to heal her. Her stoma had gotten blocked and she hadn't eaten probably for ten days before she was taken in. However, this on being admitted the doctors had delegated her to the heart ward. She'd had an erratic heart and they couldn't seem to slow it or control it. A scan was done of her stomach and they found not only was the stoma blocked but a hernia had developed. It was not possible to operate because of her heart. In addition to these items she already only had 35 percent of just one kidney functioning, she was frail and had lost much weight. For a few days there seemed to be an ongoing battle to sort out the stoma. A doctor Sparkling and L & B man called the Green Mile (after the film) had done his best to digitally remove the blockage. Both Sparkling and L & B man spent days and hours at the hospital by her side, keeping her comfortable, talking and creating a relationship with the nursing staff who were excellent. Then at some point the doctors said no more could be done. The blockage was not clearing and through many hours of very ill health morphine was administered to keep her comfortable. She passed away on 04.02.16. at approximately 10:20 a.m. maybe a few minutes earlier. I was on a train at this time and began my journey from Kings Cross to Scotland. It has been a very sad and trying time for Sparkling, however she has not as yet had a good hard cry. Once or twice she has been tearful but is doing her best to hold it together to support her brother.
It is odd when someone passes away, for I would see Sparkling's mother nearly every time I went to see Sparkling. So now a mortal human being who has been part of my life for a long time is no longer here. There is something though which was must be said, she loved every one of her offspring and did her small best to help them whenever she could. Whether it be giving money to them, being a listening ear when needed or being disapproving. She did what she thought she was best to do. Her body was left to medical science and Sparkling and L & B man are executors of her estate. Unfortunately Sparkling tells me L & B while dealing with the estate has been manic and shown the less appealing aspects of his personality, which I'll not go into.
We all have a single mortal coil to this planet and it is best to use it fully for once it is over there is nothing left except the memories and legacies we leave behind. The more I have considered this episode the more I have realised the reality of life smile and leave them happy, touch those people you love with as much affection as you can, and some people will always give more than they get in return.
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