A happy family

It is always good to hear whatever news I can about Rock Chick's baby. How much she now weighs, whether she was a good girl, if she has learnt how to smile properly yet. And Rock Chick is the best mum you could expect to have, she is so attentive, so tired out, and so tolerant. Just as Dangerous is also maturing into a great father. He dives into nappy changing, holds Baby Fro close and so lovingly and caring he is a completely changed man. OK he still loves to do the things young men love to do, but he has responsibilities and with Rock's guidance he has walked up to the precipice and now become Dangerous Dad. He loves so utterly his daughter and Rock Chick it is a wonderful sight to see. Although I must admit to seeing Rock Chick lose it on occasion with him because he doesn't do things the right way, but this is the nature of any relationship, a man will inevitable not do things quite the right way and certainly can not be as good a mother as a mother is. Even though he tries. Whenever I see Rock she glows with happiness and then it is obvious nothing else matters, they are overwhelmingly in love and happy and content.  However, what of Baby Fro.

Sparkling tells the story of how close she was with Rock Chick growing up. How she was always there next to her, how Rock always needed attention and reassurance.  Had Sparkling  of known earlier she would of given Rock Chick more often to relatives so she formed attachments with other people and felt safe and secure in their company.  Rock Chick was difficult as a baby to raise because of this. It is always difficult for a mother who goes out to work, especially when they become a single parent and making ends meet becomes a priority. The attachment got stronger and caused Sparkling tears at times as it meant many demands taking place at the same time. Juggling one thing against another made Sparkling a better circus act than a real juggler. In the end Sparkling has done the best job she could ever do, she is a great mum and hugs Rock all the time.

Baby Fro is now three months old and Rock Chick calls her Greeting Face (crying face) for she has this worried or afraid look she puts on and she cries a lot. She is of course completely infatuated with Rock Chick, staring at her like a stalker on ecstasy. It is as though Baby Fro has has been hypnotised. She is equally infatuated with Dangerous Dad and has him under her littlest finger whenever she wants him. He dots and dots and dots over her.  However, Baby has this look on her face, it's the "Danger Stranger" look, she gives it to everyone and all the time. It could be because of tummy problems she has been constantly vexed by.  So she does cry a lot. more than Dangerous Dad can.  She sleeps and feeds to demand to the extent Rock is a food machine on call 24 hours a day. Rock's life is now owned and dictated in every way baby. Her life as a young partying woman is on the shelf to the requirements of a young permanently on call mum. In turn Rock's maturity and priorities have also changed. I will admit though Rock has always been a smart girl, she's got lots of brains.  Now she tells me me how she prefers to be in doors with her baby and her man having a cup of tea than being at a party. She has had perhaps two nights out to herself in this time, which is hardly any time out at all. When considering what a party animal Rock was, this the height of her growing up.  The toll of sleeplessness, nappies, hours of crying are tough, but Rock fares it well and Dangerous a wonderful support.

When I see them all together I feel happy because they are happy. It is such an unbelievable thing to be part of. Sparkling is on call as often as she can to help, and dots and dots as a grandmother does. I do my bit to the best of my abilities when in Scotland and have gradually overcome a fear of holding a baby, (because they are scary -irrational fear I know) especially after being told to hold her and walk around the flat to keep her quiet. (about a full twenty minutes)  I am so very happy. It is great to find I am part of this family which I instinctively know is bound by love and happiness. I am of course Pops and will play my ukulele at any chance I am given.As for Babyfro in such an atmosphere she will be smiling and laughing soon, she is going to a very happy, loved and contented little girl.